Thursday, September 12, 2013

“I would rather have 30 minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special”

 “I would rather have 30 minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special

Fifteen years ago today Brian and I stood underneath a pergola topped with wisteria and twinkle lights, surrounded by people that loved us and said our vows.   
It was the smartest thing I ever did.  
Since that day we've  had two gorgeous girls, a few dogs, a couple of houses, many vacations, many struggles,  made a lot of memories  and had a few knock down, drag out fights and days where we were so mad we couldn’t even look at each other,  always followed by apologies and declarations, assurances and demonstrations of love and devotion.
I make no apologies for that - we’re passionate people, both when we fight and when we love. But we always come back together, full circle.

Circumstances over the past week or so have caused us both to look back over our life together and contemplate our future.  We have a lot of things we want to do, places we want to explore, things we want to experience – together – that seem to get pushed back. 

The kids are too young.
We don’t have the time off from work.
It’s too far.
We shouldn't spend money on that when we have other responsibilities.
The world is too scary right now.

Our goal for the next 15 years is to experience everything we've been pushing off to the future.  
This IS our future.  
We’ll figure out a way around all of the excuses.  
We have to.  

Life is too short and whether we live to be 100 or 50, our time together is limited.
We need to make the most of it and never regret a minute of it – the good and the bad.

So, here’s to traveling, and exploring, and experiencing life as a couple and as a family.  

But most of all, here's to the next 30 minutes or 30 years  together ...
no matter what, it’s been worth every second.